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Can you find love online?

According to Pewresearch.org; “The share of 18- to 24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from 10% in 2013 to 27% today. Online dating use among 55- to 64-year-olds has also risen substantially since the last Pew Research Center survey on the topic. Today, 12% of 55- to 64-year-olds report ever using an online dating site or mobile dating app versus only 6% in 2013.”

So, when you ever get a chance just look around any of those sites, you can see just how diverse the age groups are. And honestly, when doing a little bit of snooping, or, excuse me, “research” to see who’s on it, it’s like everyone and their old grand pappy have a profile nowadays! It’s all such a smörgåsbord of random people.

In hindsight one might think that with so many people online everyone should at least have a shot at finding Love, right? Well, that is where it gets tricky. The biggest issue I’ve found with so many options online is that people, especially woman, start to get greedy. I mean, come on, with so much exposure, and let’s cut to the chase here, we men flock to the profiles where any good looking females may be present. So, when you’re someone who may be feeling down on yourself, or even just need a boost in confidence regardless of your intentions, you always have the pick of the litter. All it really takes is a good selfie!

Beyond the carnal or aesthetic satisfaction that one may receive while posting a profile online, there are several elements to consider here. 1) What exactly do most people want from an online profile on a dating site? What are their true intentions? 2) Why are people posting online? Is it for their loneliness, horniness, or even just for pure entertainment? 3) Is being genuine a factor when people post themselves on the market of “love’? Considering all the above questions, it’s a sure fire decision that most people online are looking for sex! The biggest thing however, is that most people will not admit to this fact. They will go through the “motions”, so to speak, in order to get that piece of ass, so that they do not feel like a whore or slut. That goes for both men and women by the way.

You know, finding love and a partner in this world anywhere is a task that very few manage to obtain in this lifetime. So, with that said, we have to ask if the Internet is a place that does help us to find our soul mates. Or, is it just a tool that teaches us very hard learned lessons as we go through the processes. Pew research also states that only “5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online.” And in reality, is a huge number. But, what we don’t for sure is how many of these marriages actually survive. Personally, a family member of mine met someone on a very popular dating website and fell in love only to be divorced about three years later. Even though they were a “perfect match” online, real life was a whole different story.

Deciding on which site to join will also give you a great insight into what type of people will be there. Are you truly searching for love or marriage, or are you someone who’s only lonely and wanting to find another person in order to fill a void? In my own experience of dating online for many years, and each time I failed, I can definitely say that online dating is a tricky web of uncertainty when genuine intentions are involved. It’s not just the stranger factor, but so many people dating online are also involved with someone else in some way. Some of the women I dated even had men on the side, kind of waiting, just in case. Some people are upfront about it, and some are not. The main thing here to understand though is that people will always be people. So with that revelation, the internet transforms peoples egos in such a way that we have too many options to choose fun, and most all of us get greedy. And when greed is involved, love will never be able to blossom.

Now, does that mean that one can never find true love through an online dating site? No. It means that like true love itself, not matter the medium of reaching it, is a very very rare occurrence in this world. So the moral of the story is to keep that love whenever it crosses your path. Keep improving yourself first, and then if you know truly in your heart that you can accept another person into it, and only one with no safety net, then you might just be one of the lucky few.

Data retrieved from;

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/02/29/5-facts-about-online-dating/

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